The first principle when making decisions as a couple is equal partnership. You both must have equal voice in making consultative decisions that affect both of you and your family. This raises a challenge. There can be no majority vote when there are just two of you. To handle this challenge, you must both be willing to share your thoughts and feelings fully about the matter under discussion. Honesty is necessary to achieve the best decision.
You may have to pause if your discussion is escalating into conflict. It is wise to develop the sensitivity to recognize when emotions are rising to the point that the discussion will shut down. It is wise to stop before you get to that point. You may have to revisit the topic two or more times until you reach an agreement together.
In some instances, if a unified decision is not clear, you may need to defer to the choice that one of you is favoring and try it out. You are still choosing as a unified couple to follow this choice. This must not be a resentful action of letting someone have his or her way. Only by being united can you evaluate the decision quickly and determine whether it is wise. Fighting will keep the truth hidden.
